Thursday, March 16, 2006


It's clear that there is still some extreme missunderstanding of the DA concept. It is also appearant that some folks are reading what they want to see and not what is written, selective editing.

To clarify, one does not go out looking for people to hate or dislike. The Designated Asshole is a job that an individual or individuals have agreed to take on pre-physical life in order to help you along your path.
Acceptance comes in the form of admitting to yourself that you have some things to work on. By acknowledging that within yourself, you will also be accepting to those you would otherwise choose to just avoid. What we are discussing here is a pause, taking a moment to understand what it is in the person that rubs you the wrong way instead of just avoiding them as most would just do.

Why? Because you have an emotional charge around this person's traits or behavoirs. Just like you may be having an emotional charge about this series of posts. It means you have something to work on. If you really didn't care, you wouldn't be responding. But there are responses, and from people I would not even think read this BLOG.

Here is the thing America, this Designated Asshole concept is challenging peoples perception of reality. We are all taught that we are supposed to always be nice, we are taught that there is right and wrong (sounds like judgement). When a concept comes in and challenges what we beleive to be correct and what helps us to be "OK" with ourselves, the autonomic self-defense mechanism (ego) steps in to try and maintain the status quo. Sounds like an acceptance issue.

Accepting the harsh reality that there are going to be people in life that just rub you the wrong way is the first step in looking at your innerself. When you do accept this, and instead of just avoiding them, you actually take a moment to understand what it is that bothers you, then and only then can you figure out why. Again, I point out that we are not seperate, but are all connected. Each person out there is displaying an aspect or trait of our own personality. When we see an aspect or trait displayed that we do not like, it is because most very likely the same trait is within ourselves. If you are not willing to look at it, you cannot correct it.
De Nile is not just a river in Egypt, is it?

This has nothing to do with accepting others for who they are, it has to do with accepting ourselves for who we are inside and being willing to grow from what others show us.

This is also about embracing your feelings, not just the good ones, but also the ones you would classify as bad. You cannot truely be accepting of others until you can be truely accepting of yourself. Until then, one is living in a duality driven by ego.

"Seek not to have all the answers, but to understand all the questions" Taoist quote.


Blogger PAB said...

I think I heard somewhere that Tao was a Pooh...

5:13 PM  
Blogger Nome Agusta said...

I don't know about Pooh, but the it is said that the Tao that can be known is not the Tao.

9:03 PM  

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